Another One: The Reality of Numbness and What To Do and What To Say


After today’s school shooting in Texas, a friend shared that she was disturbed by her lack of emotional reaction to the event. It’s been a cycle that can be played out in shock and denial, horror, anger, helplessness, and throwing up our hands in an attempt to separate and move on with life. A row of various emojis ending with a reluctant and somewhat sheepish ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

However, she ended with “Numbness is not an option.” And she’s absolutely correct. If you love yourself, others, our republic, life, numbness is not an option. Still, numbness is a NATURAL reaction in response to an UNNATURAL deluge of violence and information. Don’t feel guilty about not feeling enough of the “correct” emotions. Recognize it, name it, and take some time to be good to your psyche. Then make the choice to act. It’s on us, the adults in the room, so the next generations don’t have to expect to be shot at eventually.


I know that for many people of means, the first active response can often be to donate to various organizations. And that’s fine. BUT consider paying yourself to call and write elected representatives instead. Wanted to donate $10, $25, $50 to a gun violence prevention organization? Try paying yourself $3, $5, $10 for each call you make, letter you send, and email you write to your elected representatives. Then take that money you earned and treat yourself. Self-care is not selfish. And you earned it!

You can find your Representative here:

Find Senators:

Or look up your State representatives (yes! they matter too!) using the Google machine.


No need to be fancy — no one will be judging you on your use of complex sentences or whether or not you mixed metaphors. Be honest and true and do it ASAP — before routines take over your passion until the next time.

Dear Senator —-: I want you to use your legislative power and national platform to prevent those who are a danger to themselves and others to purchase and keep a firearm. The Extreme Risk Protection Order (ERPO) laws seem really smart to me. Support them passionately and consistently. Thank you, Me.

Or even more direct:

Weapons of War like AR-15 style firearms and high-capacity magazines have no place in civilian life. I expect you to oppose them as if your constituents lives depend on it. Because they do.

Or just this.

I support sensible legislation that limits gun ownership in my state and across the nation.

Feel free to use at will. Or leave your respectful, clear gun reform ideas for elected representatives in comments.

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1 Response to Another One: The Reality of Numbness and What To Do and What To Say

  1. Lauren Becker says:

    Thanks for the ideas of things to email. It’s horrible that these shootings keep happening and that it’s almost like people think “right, another one…” and it’s true. Yeah, another one. But it’s still upsetting. It’s still more lives lost that didn’t have to be.


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